This past Sunday, I shared about my discovery from this year’s LENT. During this season of creating space through praying, fasting, and giving. About 10-12 days into the journey God convicted me about the selfish hole I had fallen into at my home. I don’t know if it is a man struggle or just an ego struggle, but I have become so self-centered in my routines in my own home. I actually had come to believe that my life, my priorities were the most important in my home. I would drag in from work, and I plop down on the couch to escape to “me world” to Sports Center or PTI on the TV. The sad part is not only did I blame my behavior on “work”, but I also blamed it on God. I shared because I was doing “God’s work”, I was excused to crawl into my me cave. As God convicted me I knew real change would be painful. I began to confess my sin to God which is an important next step. However, my sin was not just against God; it was also against my family. One night during our devotion time, God led me to share with my family. As I went around the room, I started with my wife and then moved to my kids. I apologized to each one of them. What started with confession moved to repentance, and then to restitution (a plan to make things right). One way I could reverse selfishness was to ask God to forgive me and to empower me to serve. Instead of withdrawing each night, I would engage in whatever is happening at home regardless of how I felt. I would use the evening time to serve my wife and kids instead of giving to myself. I am not saying rest is not important, but not at the result of disconnecting with my family. What I discovered over the past 33 days is that the more I served, the more I became empowered to do more. The more I felt like serving. The more I became like Jesus to them. There is something powerful when we combine confession with repentance and restitution. Praise God for Easter! Praise God for resurrection! Praise God for second (third, fourth, and fifth) chances.




Todd,
And praise God for a Pastor who is willing to be honest and transparent! Thank you for sharing your beautiful testimony.
“God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” (James 4:6)
One residual in owning up to my sin in front of my family, is in creating an environment for my kids to take responsibility of their sin. Taking responsibility is so important because we will all be tempted to blame (Don’t forget the blame game is older than clothes!!!).
lets watch TV tonite after a hard day’s work@@
Todd,I admore the courage it took 1. for owning up to yourself then God, but 2nd ly taking that bold steps to confess it to your entire family. 3rd You confessed this the whole world. You are a real man of God. Like a King David a man after Gods own heart. He who humbles himself will be exalted by God. But he who exalts himself will be humbled by God. You rock Todd and thankyou for being an inspiration and examples to all the men and women out there and under your influence