Marriage Minutes Test

(Over a seven-day period, note the number of minutes you spend doing each of following activities)

1. ____ Talking with your spouse when no one else is around.

2. ____ Discussing things related to just the two of you, excluding the kids, your parents, work, money, friends, or daily activities.

3. ____ Spending time just looking at each other.

4. ____ Having fun together, alone, in a mutally enjoyable activity.

5. ____ Making love, kissing, hugging, or touching each other.

6. ____ Talking about the future of your marriage, not about retirement funds, retirement homes, and insurance plans.

7. ____ Discussing world events, politics, or issues of the day.  This means two-way talking and listening.

8. ____ Just sitting together doing the same thing or something different, such as reading, listening to music, sewing, and so on.  Do not include television watching or computer.

9. ____ Eating together without interruptions (no kids or phone)

10. ___ Spending time in prayer, Bible reading, devotional reading, or worship together.  Do not include religious services.

_______ Total Marriage Minutes

* Estimated total number of Marriage Minutes (MM) available for relating to each other is 1,800 minutes, or thirty hours per week.  Divide your MM score by the 1,800 available minutes.  For example, if you estimated your total MM to be 180, divide 180 by 1,800 for an MM quotient.  This would equate 10 percent.  If your score was near 10 percent, congratulations!  In our over scheduled society, many couples don’t even rank above 5 percent.

**Taken from Igniting Intimacy p.93-94